May you rejoice in the wife of your youth.

Proverbs 5:18B

Once upon a time, you flirted with your mate.  Your eyes met across a crowded room, your hearts skipped a beat, you walked slowly toward each other as you knew … you just knew … they were the one for you.  You would do ANYTHING to make them yours.  And so, you pulled out all of your charm and won him/her over.

Do you remember how it felt?  Falling in love slowly at first, then all at once?  Do you recall how the simplest ways of them flirting with you made you feel wanted, desirable, and … sexy, even?

Well …

What happened?

If you think the grass is greener on the other side of the fence … it’s because they water and take care of theirs!  Are you doing the same with YOURS?

There is a lot to be said about how this chapter in Hugh and Cindi’s book rings true!   They stress to never let the romantic love diminish!  In doing so, others will become more attractive. This is dangerous territory!  Very dangerous.  It is a slippery slope, and no good can come of it if you allow romance to fall by the wayside with your spouse.

Cindi and Hugh talked about Proverbs 5:15-17 which urges us to “drink water from your own cistern” and not from another cisterns that might look appealing to you.  Rejoice in the one you married!

Did you take your marriage vows seriously?  They aren’t optional.  You can’t pick and choose which ones you want to uphold.  You willingly committed yourself to your spouse for life.  You vowed to love, honor, and cherish all the days of your lives … for richer or poorer … in sickness and health … as long as you both shall live.  Did you mean it?

In this chapter of their book, Hugh and Cindi had a few anonymous couples that shared some of the ways that they flirt with their spouse.  One thing that stood out to me was one man that took a risk and told his wife that she was his fantasy girl.  This gave his wife confidence in knowing that she was the one that he fantasizes about – not some airbrushed picture perfect model in a Playboy magazine that has had breast implants and other cosmetic surgeries … not someone on television or even on an adult internet website … and not anyone they come in contact with day to day.  She is the one that he fantasizes about.  She is the one that he wants to fulfill all of his needs, desires, and yes, fantasies.  THIS, ladies and gentlemen, is the way it should be.  A lot of times marriages suffer due to infidelity and pornography addictions.  But, it does not have to be this way!  Turn to each other – always – instead of something or someone else.  Uphold your marriage vows.  Honor your spouse.

You once flirted with your mate. If things seem stale in your relationship, chances are you have stopped flirting with each other. Don’t let things become hum drum. Instead, start flirting again with your mate! See the difference this simple thing can do for your marriage!

As Cindi and Hugh point out in their book, women like it when men smile at them.  They like to be complimented, and they like it when men say something to let them know that they find her attractive.  It has to be genuine, though, and from the heart.  Women CAN tell the difference in a come-on line versus the real deal.   In all honesty, men like it when women let them know that they are desirable, and they feel flattered if they feel like they’ve caught someone’s eye.

Listen up, people!

YOU need to be the one flirting with your spouse, admiring him/her, giving extra-long looks in their direction and sending suggestive text messages to your spouse.  If you don’t, someone else just might catch their eye and do the things that YOU should be doing.  Again, this is dangerous territory.  Do not let this happen!

The only person that you should be looking more than just a glance at is your spouse!   The only one that you should be longing for is your spouse!  The only one that you should be sending racy, steamy, or suggestive messages to is your spouse!  The only one that you should be flirting with, fantasizing about, and desiring is your spouse!  IF your thoughts go to any one else besides your spouse, you’re wrong and going against your marriage vows.  The only one you should be having any type of sexual relations with is your spouse!  This is the plain and simple truth!

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