Sometimes we can have the best of intentions, and yet we still fail miserably.  We don’t set out to hurt anyone’s feelings or make anyone angry, but that is the end result, unfortunately.  Today that happened, and it left me feeling horrible.  My daughter’s wedding is in just a few days, and we want everything to be absolutely perfect for her special day.  It’s a day little girls dream of their entire life.  Twirling around in princess dresses, wearing plastic tiaras and fake glass slippers, one can only imagine Prince Charming coming to sweep you off your feet just like in the movies.

And they lived happily ever after …

At some point after the honeymoon phase has ended, you will want to look back on your wedding day to re-live each moment! That is when good quality pictures are going to be so appreciated.  Your wedding should not be left in the hands of an amateur, but instead, a seasoned professional would be better suited for such an occasion.  They will know the perfect angle and snap amazing shots of the bride and groom smiling and having the time of their lives together.

This was the basis behind my intention today when I commented about a photographer my daughter trusted for her bridal portraits.  Here we are two and a half weeks AFTER her bridal portrait session without a professional picture to have enlarged to display at her reception.  One picture was sent, heavily filtered and edited to the point that the green grass appeared … dead and lifeless in the pictures!!  Much to my horror, too, because I worked tirelessly for months upon months getting my yard to look amazing with plush green grass and flowers popping everywhere.  Imagine my shock when the edits took away from the beautiful surroundings!  I commented, not realizing I was hurting my daughter’s feelings in the process.  It was no reflection of her at all, but the editing style of this photographer.  Honestly, when I saw the engagement shots, I had no idea of what the surroundings looked like at the location they chose at that point so it really didn’t occur to me to notice the faded, washed out look that I later learned is this photographer’s “style.”  My daughter and her fiancé got engaged in November of last year, and I just assumed the surroundings in those pictures were due to the change of the seasons.  Going from Fall into Winter, one would not expect to see vibrant green, so I didn’t think anything of it.

Until now.

I’m sure there are a ton of people that love the editing style this photographer chose, but I am a fan of more traditional pictures without all the heavy editing.  People can take it to the extreme, and I’m sure their intentions are pure as well.  The pictures can either turn out faded, as these have, or they can appear overly edited to the point that they take a muddy brown looking lake and turn it into a beach paradise as if you have been swept away to a tropical island somewhere with blue water.  I honestly detest the heavy editing because it gives unrealistic expectations.  I have actually been to a few of the places pictured and edited to this extreme only to be devastated and disappointed in the surroundings not looking anything like the pictures I had seen previously!  A more nature look in pictures is needed and desired, so you see the true beauty of your subject, not some heavy editing or filters used to turn something into what it truly is not.  In this case, it was the appearance of dead grass that turned me off immediately.  You see, I had taken pictures myself that very day, and I had a “real” picture to compare the heavily edited picture to, so it really screamed at me when I saw it.  Again, it’s no reflection on my daughter at all.  But she took it personally, even though my intention was not to make her feel bad about her choice of photographer.

Oh boy, Mom!  Now what?

Days before the wedding, and you’re insulting the photographer’s editing style!  Yep!

ONLY because I want my daughter to have excellent QUALITY pictures to reflect back on in years from now.  The editing style might be “in” right now and “trending,” but in years from now when the pictures typically DO fade from age … what will they be left with?  That is all I kept thinking.  If the images and backgrounds, their surroundings and objects in the pictures already look faded and washed out, it only gets worse as time goes on!

Ah … but there is a backup plan brewing!  Mom always has a Plan B!

While we won’t have another “professional” photographer present at the wedding, there will be a lot of pictures being taken by others.  We have a dear family friend on “video” duty that day, and he will also be snapping some quality pictures of his own throughout the ceremony and reception.  Thank GOD for good friends with lots of TALENT, too!!

Now it’s the best of both worlds.  My daughter has her photographer, and I have mine!  ~grin~

Oh I’ve seen the work of this gentleman through the years, and he most definitely has an eye for photography.  I am trusting him to capture the moments of the happy couple with a twinkle in their eyes and beaming smiles on their lips.  THAT is what I look forward to seeing – in living, vibrant color!!

What about the missing professional bridal portraits?  Again … Mom always has a Plan B in that regard as well!  Those pictures I snapped the day of the bridal portrait session ended up saving the day!  Literally.  I took my pictures and had a 16×20 collage made for her special day, and I have a 8×10 for her bridal portrait to display at the reception!  I was very pleased with the way they turned out, too, on the canvas and am excited to have them on display for all to see.  Oh my “little girl” makes a beautiful bride, for sure!!  So all was not lost, after all.  My daughter WILL have her bridal portrait after all!

Nice “save,” Mom!!

At the end of the day, my intention is to have amazing wedding pictures for my daughter to one day show her very own children.  I imagine she will want to reminisce with them, just as I have with my own two daughters about my wedding day.  Long after the day is over, I want those memories sealed forever in good quality photography to be shared for generations to come!

My intentions are true, honest, and pure.  I only want the best for my daughter – on her wedding day – and throughout life!