As Valentine’s Day is quickly approaching, I wanted to take this time to make sure that you’re focusing on your relationship and/or marriage. Are you speaking your mate’s love language?

If you haven’t read the book by Dr. Gary Chapman regarding The 5 Love Languages: The Secret to Love That Lasts
I strongly encourage you to do so!   In this book, Dr. Chapman explains how you may not be filling your spouse’s love tank if you are doing things for them that YOU would like done for you.  Just because you like those things and it makes you happy does not mean that it will do the same for your spouse.  They are unique individuals, and we have to take that into consideration.

Our love language might be gifts.   If you like receiving gifts, then you will appreciate when your mate gives you a present.  If you give a gift to your mate, though, and their love language is quality time, well, you won’t have the same happy feelings from them.  Sure, they will appreciate that you thought of them, but it would have meant so much more if you had just spent some quality time with them instead.

Or what about doing things for your mate?  If they enjoy doing things for you, but you would rather do it yourself … you won’t have warm fuzzy feelings when they do chores around the house.  Instead, you may secretly wish they would fulfill another one of your love languages such as holding your hand or taking a walk with you.

The whole point of the book is to know your love language and that of your mate.  If you are constantly doing stuff for your mate that really does not fill up their love tank or bring you closer together, consider purchasing this book.   It was an eye opener for us when we read it.
 
Dr. Chapman also has a book for The Five Love Languages Singles Edition
I know a lot of people that will be single on Valentine’s Day really are dreading this day.   Instead of being in a bad mood all day, how about reading this book?   There is something that you CAN do while you wait … so check it out.

Dr. Chapman has truly thought of everything as he has a book called The 5 Love Languages of Children

Dr. Chapman has a book for teens as well, The 5 Love Languages of Teenagers New Edition: The Secret to Loving Teens Effectively

Last but not least, Sarah advised that there is also The 5 Love Languages Military Edition: The Secret to Love That Lasts Thank you, Sarah!!!

Why not take a different approach this Valentine’s Day?   This isn’t just a one day thing, though.  Relationships and marriages take work … ALL relationships take work, even that with your children and teenagers, just in different ways.   Invest in your loved ones and consider purchasing these books.  They are packed with helpful information.

My husband and I had the privilege of attending a seminar where Dr. Chapman was speaking a few years ago, and it was a truly moving experience.  We came home with ALL of the above books, we thought THAT highly of him.  Thus, our recommendation.

Please note that we are NOT getting paid for promoting his books or for this review.  Affiliate links were used in this post, and if you purchase through the above links, we will get a small commission which helps keep our website running.   However, even if you do not purchase through the links, I believe in these books so much that I would still ask that you try to check them out at the local library.  Put these on your “must read” list!

If you apply the information in these books, I can promise you that you will see a difference in your relationships!

Here’s to love of all kinds this Valentine’s Day!