Let’s face it.  Marriage is hard work.  Honestly, the struggle is real in a LOT of marriages these days.  But, take heart.  There is hope!

Focus On The Family has been helping families and marriages for many, many years.  Now is no different as they have a marriage survey for you to take where it will reveal the strong points in your marriage first.  Then, it will reveal the items it feels you are weaker in resulting from your answers to their questions.  They go a step further, though, and provide information on how to improve in those areas.  There are books recommended as a resource to get you headed in the right direction.  The ultimate book is God’s Word, though!

I took the survey just a little bit ago, and I was pleased with the strong points in my marriage such as having a commitment to each other, spending quality time together, and intimacy between us.  Where we struggle is, honestly, in the spiritual department and with not surrounding ourselves with couples in our community for a source of support.  We lean heavily on each other, and to me, that isn’t a bad thing at all.  But, the survey did suggest that we needed more outside support within our community.  We did try this a few years ago with a small group at our church.  When we were having some issues two years ago, though, it seemed to do more harm than good when we reached out to those around us.  The more people that got involved, the worse it was!  Opinions from others were flying back and forth on both sides with a great number suggesting that we go against what our hearts wanted: each other!  We believed in our marriage even when those on the outside did not, and we did NOT give up on our marriage nor each other!

Spiritually, we have a ways to go.  The husband is the head of the house and the leader, and I believe my husband desires to do good in this area.  He wasn’t really raised being involved in the church or having a relationship with Christ like we’ve both realized we needed all of this time.  He gave his life to the Lord a few years into our marriage, praise the Lord for that!  However, I think he feels he isn’t equipped to lead us spiritually.  I strongly disagree.  While I have heard the saying about being a baby in your spiritual walk still drinking milk, as he grows in his faith he will become more comfortable in that leading role.  Once he grows and matures as a Christian, he will walk confidentially as the head of our house and the spiritual leader for our family.

The survey did not really reveal anything earth shattering that we didn’t already know we needed to work on, but it was interesting to participate in the survey.  I enjoyed reading the results and seeing the recommendations as far as reading material to help bridge the gap of where we are and where we’d like to be spiritually.  I really did appreciate the resources listed and plan to check them out.

If you have five minutes, would you consider taking the survey, answering the questions honestly and then taking action on the areas you may be weak on in your marriage?  If so, please click here to take you to the Focus On The Family Marriage Survey.

I’d like to see everyone’s marriages improve so that you’re close in all areas: emotionally, mentally, spiritually, and physically.  It can happen!

Marriage isn’t just 50/50 as a lot of people like to say.  It takes both of you going above and beyond to make your marriage soar to new heights.  You CAN keep the fire burning in your marriage.

Even if there have been issues in your marriage previously where you felt like a wedge was driven between you and your spouse, God can heal your marriage if you turn to Him.  We are living proof of it as we are closer now than we have ever been in our entire marriage!  Two years ago, honestly, we were not sure that would be possible.  We give God all the praise, honor, and glory for this because HE turned the problems we had into stepping stones to a love beyond our wildest dreams.  We know for a fact that HE is able, if you trust in Him and turn your lives and marriage over to Him.

So what are you waiting for?  Take the marriage survey, discuss the results, and join together to utilize the resources they recommend to improve your marriage.  No, I am not receiving any commission or any blogger perks for recommending Focus On The Family, their survey, or the resources offered.  I simply love what Focus On The Family is all about and wanted to share with others who may be interested.

Here’s to living, loving, and enjoying life together with your spouse!