Today I would like to share my thoughts on how to be a modern gentleman.  In the world today, people rush here and there, never really taking the time to care about those that cross their paths during the course of a day.

My wife, Shirley, has spoken on being intentional in the past.  I’d like to add my thoughts below for this topic in particular.  Just how do you show that you’re a gentleman?  By doing the following:

`Greet people politely.  Treat your wife and children better than anyone else in your day.

`Always open the door for your wife and children.

`Be punctual.  It does not make the person feel good to have to wait on you all the time.

`Keep your word.  Do what you say/ follow thru with your intentions.

`Leave the  place better than you found it.

`Put your cell phone away!

`Have fun.  You don’t have to be so serious all the time.

`Don’t hold on to the negatives of the past.

`Don’t assume or accuse.

`Pray for yourself and others.  Seek God in all things.

`Don’t brag or boast.

`Be authentic.

`Have eyes for only her.

`Make your wife feel like a queen every chance you get.

`Discover her “love language” and do things that speak directly to her heart.

`Make reservations or plans.  While it’s nice to be spontaneous at times, it makes her feel special if you thought it out in advance and planned things just for your wife.

`Give her your jacket if she’s cold.

`Don’t be a pig at the table.  Wait to start your meal and wait to finish together.

`Pull her seat out for her at the table.

`Rise from your seat when she enters the room.

`Listen with empathy.  This is very important as women as big on communication.

`Compliment her often but be sincere about it.  Don’t use “cookie cutter” phrases.  Mean what you say.

`Say please and thank you.  Using your manners is still “in” these days.

`Watch your mouth and your language.

`Control your temper.  Don’t let it control you!

`If you are mechanically inclined, fix things around the house without being asked.  She won’t have to “nag” if you just do it!

`Pay attention to details.