Back in February, Old Fashioned came out in theaters the same exact weekend that Fifty Shades of Grey entered on the scene.  When it seemed that people every where couldn’t get to the theaters fast enough to see Fifty Shades, my husband and I went in search of a good, wholesome movie to see instead.   We got just that in Old Fashioned!

To be honest, I read Fifty Shades when everyone started talking about the books long before there was ever any mention of a movie being made.  Curiosity killed the cat so to speak, and I wanted to see what people were in an uproar about.  Some were raving about how much they loved it and how it spiced up their love lives, while others were so set against it and all the books stood for.  Once my curiosity was satisfied with the books, I had no desire to see the movie when it came out.  I’m not a prude by any means, but I did not need to take it any further beyond the books.  While it may be exciting to role play and do other “scenes” in the bedroom at times, there is a lot to be said about what others on the Dominant/submissive scene refer to as “vanilla.”  That may sound boring to some.  For me, an old fashioned way of courting and falling in love should be the foundation of your relationship.  The romance and passion that comes along with it will be enough to knock your socks off to where one won’t need an erotic book or movie to help enhance things in the bedroom.

There really is no comparing the two movies because I will always lean toward love and romance first.  What was noticeably different is how the characters were drawn to each other.  In Fifty Shades, he sees her, wants her, and due to all of his wealth and money, he gets her.  However, in Old Fashioned, the woman is more modern and worldly it seems at first glance, while the man is more standoffish.  He will not even be in the same room with her alone.  He prefers, instead, to stand outside her door to speak with her, or if he has to go inside her apartment to make repairs, he has her stand outside the door while he’s inside the apartment.  He does not want there to be an opportunity for temptation or for things to look bad either.  Yes, it is an old fashioned approach, but it is something that we need to consider now in this day and age, too. Think about it.  How common is it for a male and a female coworker to be together looking over plans, proposals, bids, or discussing something else on the job? One may not see anything wrong with stepping inside the office and closing the door with a member of the opposite sex or even going out for a “working lunch” with a coworker of the opposite sex either, BUT, they should!   Quite frankly, males and females should not be in the same room or car alone.  Period.  If they are married, their spouses won’t like it one bit, but not only that, it introduces an opportunity for temptation to enter or inappropriate things to start happening.  Does it always?  NO.  But, why take the chance?   There is a lot to be said about not giving the wrong impression or the “appearance of evil” either.

One significant difference in the two movies is that Grey and his subject had an agreement, yet he still did things that seemed to violate her trust in him.  She quickly recovered and went back for more, but this has been seen by a lot of people as abuse.  Some argue that if they had an agreement and they were both consenting adults that this wasn’t abuse, just something that happened when they were living out one of their “scenes.”  The main character in Old Fashioned had a life changing moment where he realized that he did not want to continue on the path that he was on, and ended up turning his life around.  He began reading a bible that he was given and allowed it to speak to his heart.  As he did, he realized he wanted things to be different in his life and his relationships.  He went back to the old fashioned way of life, which, to me, is quite refreshing.

Earlier this morning my husband had to take our vehicle to the repair shop.  As he waited inside, he overheard a woman talking about how she was so “over” hearing about Fifty Shades.  My husband took that opportunity to share with her that when everyone was talking about this movie, we went to see Old Fashioned.  He told her a little of what it was about, and the lady said she thought she may have read the book a few years ago.  My husband expounded on it saying that now there is the book, the movie, AND a devotional type book as well.  He encouraged her to check it out, and she said she might actually do that.  We encourage our readers to do the same.  You won’t be sorry!  And actually, we have all three, and we plan to pass these along to our 18 year old daughter and her boyfriend.  They just started dating, and while he has been respectful and has shown, thus far, that he is a gentleman, we don’t think it will hurt to introduce this concept to ensure that they take this path instead of the worldly way.

If any of our readers are on the dating scene themselves or has teenagers/young adults that are dating as well, please enter our giveaway and share the Old Fashioned concept with them, too!   I’d love to see more couples reverting back to this way of courting and having a meaningful, Christ-centered relationship than what this world has resorted to today.

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