With trouble to the left and right of you, seemingly every where you look … I am encouraged by a friendly smile, a gentle touch, a considerate and thoughtful act.
I am encouraged by those that take the time to show that they care.
There are days when it seems as if NO one cares. People are so busy with their own lives that they rarely have time to be concerned with yours at all. And I’m not talking about the nose-in-your-business kind of being concerned. I could do without those thrill seekers and gossip mongers looking for something to spread all over town, or those that “come to see” at a trying time or at a time when they know you’re struggling … or the world’s worst time to put that into practice is when you’ve lost someone you love more than life itself, and someone comes “just to see.” I had a coworker that admitted she was one of those types of people. ~I shudder at the thought!~
Of course, there are going to be long lost people that you haven’t heard from in a while, yet they resurface in your life when they KNOW you’re going through a hard time. Why do they resurface at times like this? They aren’t there to encourage you. They are only there to bring you down, or even to kick you when you’re down.
In this world that we’re living in today, though, I can take heart that not everyone is this way. Oh thank you GOD that there are still genuine people in this world that just want to love, support, and be there!
The world needs more of that!
That … THAT encourages me more than anything … when someone will push all things aside just to let you know that they care … they love you … value you … and you are so important in their life!
All it takes is a heart-felt gesture. And it changes everything!
When given the opportunity to be an encouragement by spreading cheer and positive energy every where you go … do you choose this path?
Or how about this?
Do you give your best to those around you in your work day – your co-workers, the secretary, the receptionist at the front desk, the boss … or even those you encounter behind the counter or at restaurants serving you when you’re having a meal. Do they get more of your kindness and consideration than members of your own family? Wow, did I just step on some toes? Are you different around others, yet you turn into Mister or Miss Crabby Pants around your family? Realize that there are those right in your own house, under your same roof that could use encouragement. They could use loving kindness, words of affirmation, thoughtful consideration … and respect even. Plain and simple, the ones in your own home need your love.
If someone had to write an article on you, what would they say? Would they say that you were an encouragement in their life? Would they say that you show compassion? Would they say that your family comes first?
I am encouraged by those that wish to do better, who wish to make a lasting change, and who share the best of themselves with people — but reserve a special part of their heart, their love, their thoughtfulness, and their soul for their spouse. That should not go without being said. No one gets that part of you but your spouse!
So think on it … How CAN you be an encouragement to someone today? How can you make a difference so that someone will say, “I am encouraged by …[insert your name here].”
Chapter six of “Soothe: How to find calm amid everyday chaos” deals with meditation. As I read through the contents of the book, my eyes stopped at this chapter as this topic has a special interest for me. I have been meditating since I was a freshman in high school which puts me at around the 40 year mark for practicing meditation. (Enter our Soothe Contest below)
What I found intriguing in this chapter is that Brickman discusses several ways for a person to get started with meditation. He lists six different types of meditation that anyone, beginner to expert, can use with ease. I loved reading these as it was quite different from what I first read about meditation.
My first exposure on how to mediation was what I think is the standard preconception about meditating. You sit with your legs crossed, straighten your back, have your arms bent with the palms of your hands facing upwards, breathe deeply and chant “om.” Guess what. That didn’t work for me. I can’t be comfortable sitting contorted like a pretzel, trying to breathe from my abdomen while chanting “om.” I didn’t let that discourage me. I just found what worked for me.
Many things I have read about meditation say that you have to clear your mind. For me that is extremely difficult as my mind is working non-stop all the time. I have found my own method that works for me. I recline in a comfortable position. I have a bean bag pillow to support my head and neck. I put headphones on and listen to some soft music. I always start with a short prayer. To try getting my mind away from the flurry of activity thinking about this or that, I run a few affirmations through my mind. Then I just let my mind go and concentrate on the music. When I realize that my mind is wandering to a place I don’t want to go, I bring it back to the music. Sometimes, I will think of a place that is special to me which brings out happy feelings and imagine myself there. At times I will get so into the music that it feels like I am floating upon the notes as the play. My latest favorite music for meditation is the companion CD to the book, “Soothe: Music to quiet your mind and soothe your world.” Other artists that I listen to while meditation are Ryan Farish, Kevin Wood, 2002 and Secret Garden.
For those of you that may be considering meditation for the first time I would like to give you this advice; find what works for you. Everyone is different. What works for me is not going to work for everyone. Try each of the types of meditation mentioned in “Soothe: How to find calm amid everyday chaos.” Make some changes to them if need be to find what works for you. The benefits Brickman lists in the book are valid and I have found them to be true in all my years of meditation.
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My sister’s life was cut short. She passed away at just 33 years old, two weeks after delivering her only child.
Oh, I will never forget the day that my sister came to my place of employment to tell me the news that she was pregnant.
She asked me to walk to her car where she immediately placed a neatly wrapped package in my hands. The wrapping paper was so pretty and delicate with a little ribbon tied around the square item that I now held in my hands. I looked at her with this big question mark over my head, I’m sure, as it was not my birthday or any special occasion so I could not understand why she was presenting me with a gift.
I slowly started to unwrap the present as I glanced up at her. She was standing in front of me with the sweetest smile forming on her lips. I carefully ripped back the paper to reveal the back of a picture frame. As I turned it over and feasted my eyes upon the picture that this silver frame held, I could contain my excitement no longer. Inside the picture frame was an ultrasound picture! Without saying a word, I KNEW!
After several squeals of delight and wrapping my arms around my sister’s neck to give her the biggest hug ever, I stepped back to examine my little niece or nephew that I would meet in a few months.
Oh no, I will never forget the day or the way she announced her pregnancy to me! Her way of doing this was extra special.
My sister allowed me to be a part of her pregnancy. She kept me informed of doctor appointments and the results of testing as well as when other ultrasounds were scheduled. I had the honor of throwing a baby shower for her, just as she had done for me four years prior when I was pregnant with my oldest daughter. We shared so much during those months of her pregnancy. Time that I treasured and wish I could have slowed down a little more to have enjoyed the last months of her life. I had no idea at that point in time that as much as we were eagerly awaiting the baby’s arrival with the days seeming to crawl by … we now wish they would have gone a little slower so we could have savored more time with her here on this earth with us.
Ah, but there was no way for us to know.
I was allowed to be present for my sister’s delivery. While I was not in the room, I was standing just outside of her hospital room when my niece took her first breath in to release the sweetest little cry which was music to our ears! I remember literally jumping up and down in excitement right there in the hall when I heard the beautiful sound of her baby crying.
Within moments, the nurse was coming out of the room to let us know that my sister delivered a little girl. When the doctor had her ready, I was allowed to take my place by my sister’s bedside as I gushed with pride at the pink, wrinkled bundle of joy that she held in her arms. What a precious, precious sight to see. My sister … the one that once tormented me to no end in our childhood days … was now a mother!
The nurses were ready to take the little bundle to the nursery to weigh her and put her cute little baby footprints on the page in the baby book that I had given my sister a month earlier. Her husband allowed me to be present in the nursery as they did all of the necessary things that are required for a newborn. There I was, smiling widely as I snapped picture after picture, standing next to my niece anxiously awaiting the moment I would be allowed to hold her for the first time. That would have to wait, though, as there was business to tend to.
I remember looking through the glass of the nursery and seeing my parents and her inlaws smiling back as they ohh’ed and ahhh’ed over the pink, wrinkled skinned baby girl laying there in all of her glory. What a precious moment that I was allowed to be a part of.
Later, we returned to my sister’s side with her baby all cleaned up, and then it happened. I was given the green light to hold my darling niece in my arms! Finally, I could hold this little angel and look into her sparkling brown eyes while using the lightest touch possible as I stroked my index finger across what little bit of brown hair covered her tiny head.
Two weeks.
That’s all we had with my sister after the delivery of her daughter. Our happy moments were soon a distant memory as we learned of my sister’s passing. Death came knocking that scorching hot and humid July day.
I will never forget fearing something was terribly wrong and racing as fast as my Honda Civic would go own the country roads to my sister’s house that day. I could not get there fast enough. I had such an urgency in my being after not reaching her by phone all morning long. That day was the first day her husband was returning to work after the delivery of their daughter, and I knew something was wrong when she did not answer the phone despite my practically ringing it off the hook. I called the doctor’s office as she was supposed to call for an appointment that day, yet, they had not heard from her. Sharing my concerns with them, they, too, began calling her but were unable to reach her. When the nurse asked me if I thought my sister might harm herself or the baby, I practically threw the phone on the floor as I raced out of the door at my office and got behind the wheel. THAT was my biggest fear. It had now been spoken out into the universe, and I had to get to my sister … right … then!
We knew that my sister was having a little trouble. She wasn’t sleeping. We knew she had concerns as to whether she was being a good mother to her newborn daughter. YES! She was such a good mother, and it showed in how she gently and tenderly cared for her daughter. She did not sleep due to standing over her daughter’s crib as she was afraid something was going to happen to her baby. Sure, we tried to relieve my sister so she could get some sleep, but we saw her shadow across the threshold behind the closed bedroom door, and we knew that sleep had not come after all. That was why she was making an appointment first thing that Monday morning when the doctor’s office opened up. And yet … the call was never placed.
Back on the road, my thoughts were consuming me, and the urgency was rising up within me even more so than before. I HAD to get to her. Speeding down the road, I soon saw a gray car in my rear view mirror. This car was so close to me with flashing yellow hazard lights behind me. I just knew it was an unmarked police car. Regardless, I would not stop. NOT even for the blue light that I was anticipating at any given moment. Instead of the blue lights, though, the gray car attempted to get beside me. I stomped the gas pedal even closer to the floor as I thought they might be trying to get around me, and I was NOT stopping for THEIR emergency. I had an emergency of my own!
I turned the corner and everything seemed to go in slow motion at that point. I could not believe my eyes. There was yellow caution, police tape around my sister’s house, and her house was surrounded by police cars. And then, the gray car pulled in behind me, and as I turned around, I saw my dad rushing to stand before me where he grabbed me … and I knew. Instantly, I knew … our greatest fear had become a reality. Without my dad saying a word, I knew that my sister had ended her life. As his strong arms were wrapped around me as tightly as he could hold me with the palm of his hands on the back of my head, I sobbed deeply into his chest. There were sounds that day that I could not identity as I had never heard them before – or since – and I pray I never do again. Those sounds came from me. Heart wrenching, deep from the core of my being … sobs and wails … as my heart shattered into a million pieces inside of my chest as my daddy held me up in his embrace.
That was – without a doubt – the worst day of my life when I lost my sister. My only sibling. The only other person that could identify with childhood memories. I lost my best friend that day.
Thirteen years have passed now, and I remember this all as if it was yesterday. When it happened, I did not know how I would make it from one minute to the next. I had no idea how I could possibly draw my next breath now that she was gone. This hurt and pain was unlike anything else I had ever felt before in my lifetime. It was as if someone snatched me up with lightning speed and threw me full force into a brick wall. I hurt, I ached, I shook. Sleep would not come for me as nightmares took its place. While I did not see my sister end her life, I had this horror movie that played on repeat in my brain that I could … not … shut … off!
Post traumatic stress syndrome. We learned what that was after my sister’s passing.
And as badly as I was hurting, it was magnified for my parents. My dad, I later learned, had witnessed the aftermath of my sister’s suicide. He and my brother-in-law were the ones that found her. My dad had rushed to my sister’s house after I told him I could not get her on the phone. He heard the baby crying but could not get into the house. He called her husband at work, and he rushed home to meet my dad. Together, they went into the house where they found my niece in the bassinet that I had given my sister. There my niece was laying in the white bassinet, crying. They made their way down the hallway and into the master bedroom where they found my sister. I can not begin to imagine the horror that my dad lives with to this very day after what he saw in that room. While my brother-in-law ran screaming from the room and later fainted on the kitchen floor, my dad stayed in the room crying over his daughter. Not wishing for anyone else to see my sister this way, my dad took a sheet and covered my sister’s body.
Yes, thirteen years later, and we are the survivors that have had to find a new sense of normal. We had to learn how to walk around with our hearts shattered now that my sister was gone. We had to learn how to act again, and how to function with such a big part of us missing.
I often wonder what it would have been like if my sister had reached out for help that day. Instead of taking matters into her own hands, I wish she would have called me and let me know that she was struggling as she had never struggled before. Oh, how I wish she had given me a little insight into the pain that she kept hidden from us all in those two weeks. Yes, we knew the lack of sleep was an issue, but we did not know the emotional turmoil that she was feeling. Until it was too late.
We were only allowed to be around my niece a handful of times through these 13 years. That added to our pain as the only part of my sister we had left, we were not able to be with. We were not allowed to be an active part of her daughter’s life. We were not allowed to be there for her, to bond with her, to love her and show her the depths of our love for her. We were forbidden, for the majority of these years, from interacting with her.
My niece will be 14 years old in July. I often wonder how things would have been different if her mother had been here all of these years. I know I would have had a closer relationship with her as my sister would have made sure that all of us saw her more and got to spend quality time with her.
I often wonder what we could have done differently to have prevented my sister’s suicide. For a long time, we carried so much guilt and shame for not knowing … not seeing … not stopping … this heart breaking, tragic event that took my sister from us all.
Oh yes, I often wonder what life would have been like. I sure do.
Yesterday was Mother’s Day. It was a day honoring mothers every where. That includes YOU, dear mother that is reading this that often times feels like everyone else gets honored on “that” day but you.
I have been there.
There was once a time when I felt like I was lost in the shuffle on Mother’s Day. The festivities fell on my shoulders … to make sure my mom felt special, to make sure my grandmother felt special, too, and let’s not forget that I also had to make sure that my mother-in-law felt special as well. I was the one that people looked to and expected something to be done to “celebrate” the mothers in the family. Yet, I was and am a mother myself, so who was supposed to celebrate … ME?
At one time, I felt selfish for these thoughts. Not any more.
I AM a mother, and I DO deserve to be treated special. Not just on one day a year, though. Yes, mothers get special recognition on that day for all that they do. But, I hope you’re showing your mother or the mother of your children DAILY how special they are and how much you appreciate and love them. They work long hours with little recognition for all that they DO. As the saying goes, “A mother’s work is never done.” It seems like that, doesn’t it with the endless pile of laundry that seems to breed and multiply in the laundry room and clothes hampers!
But, yes, at one point I felt selfish for wondering who was to celebrate me and how long did I have to “mother” to qualify for someone celebrating me.
I finally decided that my husband was perfectly capable of celebrating the woman that brought him into this world and raised him. I no longer needed to carry the weight of this on my shoulders to do things “just right” to celebrate her. She wasn’t my mother. Oh that is not going to come off nice to some of my readers, but I inherited her when I married him. Whether he celebrated her in years past and how, he did without me then … so if he wishes to celebrate her now, he can still do that without my help. No, I don’t harbor any ill feelings toward his mother at all. Please don’t read that into this. But, she was one of the ones that didn’t really celebrate me. Finally, she did start mailing me a card, which I appreciate. It took YEARS for me to “qualify” to be a recipient of a card from her, although I am the mother of her 10 year old granddaughter in addition to her 18 year old step granddaughter. Yes, I think I more than qualify for someone to celebrate me instead of me always being the one to celebrate everyone else and make sure they feel special on Mother’s Day.
Although my late grandmother would come to Mother’s Day dinner at my house along with my parents, my grandma didn’t celebrate me either. I always had her a present when she came, and I made sure to recognize her. I just did not “qualify” to receive recognition from her, I suppose, although I’ve been a mother for the past 18 years.
My parents, though, they ALWAYS celebrated me. I was recognized by my dad, especially, and I am so thankful for all that he has done in years past and this year included, to recognize me on this day where mothers every where are honored and recognized.
I was always so “busy” getting the Mother’s Day gifts in order as well as preparing the Mother’s Day meal … it wasn’t a day off for me AT ALL … instead, it seemed to be a day that I worked even harder, without any recognition at all for ME being a mother, too. I worked, I did, I bought, I cooked, I made, I recognized, I honored. Everyone let me do it, too. My mother, my grandmother, my mother-in-law, my husband, etc.
Finally I had a melt down one year. I said WHO is going to celebrate ME?
Well, I did NOT have that complaint this year AT ALL …
As to the answer to the question “Who is going to celebrate ME?” My daughter … my 18 year old daughter that is graduating at the end of the month … took HER graduation money that she has received from people thus far and went shopping for me. I did not know this at the time, but it was revealed to me this past weekend. My darling daughter took her money that was given to her and used it to purchase presents to honor and celebrate me. She could have (and really should have) taken that money to use on something for herself … and yet, she sacrificed so that I would be honored and celebrated on Mother’s Day.
It all started Friday when my girls announced that they would do whatever I wanted the entire weekend since it was Mother’s Day weekend. YEA!!!!
We took off to Charleston on Friday to Magnolia Plantation and Gardens. Oh my goodness! If you have never been … it is a must see if you are ever in South Carolina!
From the historic house, to the beautiful grounds, there is so much history within the old rice fields alongside of this plantation. We strolled through the gardens, visited the petting zoo, and enjoyed looking at the miniature horses and donkey as well. Then, we went up to the house and played on a tree that my now 18 year old daughter played on when we visited this site many years ago. We took pictures with the beautiful white bridge that is in a lot of people’s wedding photographs from the low country. We were one with nature as we saw alligators in the ponds and swamps, and that was plenty close enough for me!
We had a wonderful day together, and then we went to the mall. 🙂 Doesn’t everyone after they’ve taken a walk back into time?
Saturday my daughter went out for a bit and returned with flowers … a dozen of the most beautiful white roses I’ve ever seen before! I can imagine these once tiny white buds slowly opening up into these fist sized roses to share all of their beauty with us. I placed them in a vase and then gave them a home right in the very center of our dinning room table to enjoy as we had our dinner together as a family.
We spent Saturday with me transferring 12k pictures from my computer onto an external hard drive for safe keeping, and then we were off to dinner at a local restaurant with my parents. Tomatoes and rice were calling my name! If you’re Southern, you’ll understand. If not, don’t ask.
Sunday morning I awoke to beautiful gifts from my darling daughter. As I mentioned earlier in this post, she took her graduation money and purchase gifts for me. She has a heart as big as Texas! Not wishing for her sister or step dad to feel bad for not having any gifts to give me themselves, my daughter shared the presents that she purchased for me with them so that everyone would have something to give me that morning on Mother’s Day. That was so incredibly sweet of her, and it truly touched my heart. Later, she and I had a conversation together where she shared that although it was from her and she had this overwhelming feeling to tell me that morning, she didn’t because she didn’t want to take away from her sister and step dad presenting me with the gifts. I told her that although she never said a word at that time, she didn’t have to because I KNEW … I knew who celebrated me. I knew who those gifts were from. Deep in my heart, I knew that my 18 year old daughter was the one that took it upon herself to recognize, celebrate and honor me on Mother’s Day. Yes, my day had come … someone recognized me due to their kind and thoughtful heart without me saying a word. No prodding, no comments, no subtle hints even. She did this all on her own. And my heart was overflowing with joy.
After that, I reminded my daughters that they said they would do anything I wanted for Mother’s Day weekend. Can you guess what I chose to do? TRAIL RIDING!!!
My 10 year old daughter goes trail riding with us every chance she gets. She loves it so much and enjoys being with her horse. My oldest daughter, however, isn’t as thrilled to get on the back of a horse these days. She will if I beg … but this day, Mother’s Day, all I had to do was smile sweetly as we loaded the horse trailer, packed a lunch, snacks, and drinks, and headed out on the trail. All four of us got to go together trail riding, which thrilled my heart completely! That was the greatest gift that money could never buy, the gift of having my family together – all of us – including our fur babies.
After a few hours of trail riding, we returned home where shortly thereafter my parents arrived to have dinner with us. We grilled out and had an enjoyable evening laughing, talking, and just enjoying each other’s company.
My mom was funny, though, as when she entered my house, she was talking. I was listening to her with the biggest smile on my face as she had walked right past the dinning room table where a bouquet of flowers sat on the table. Flowers we purchased for her on Mother’s Day. We also had a little crystal whatnot (or as she calls them, dust collectors) sitting right beside it that said, “Love You Forever.” I had to point at the flowers before she looked in that direction, and even then she had no idea that they were for HER … I had to tell her, and then she melted right there on the spot.
Ah, sweet moments like this will be engraved in my memory forever!
All in all, it was a perfect weekend spent with my family. I celebrated my mom, of course. But, my daughter celebrated ME!
My husband did take me shopping Friday at the mall, and I picked up some blouses … so that was his Mother’s Day gift to me, which I greatly appreciate. But, knowing that my daughter used her money that was given to her as a graduation gift to purchase my Mother’s Day … there is a twinge of guilt there, but I know that she sacrificed for me. My darling daughter thought of me … honored me … and celebrated ME.
That was a great feeling!
Just as I wrote on a Facebook status this weekend … Life is good … God is GREAT … I am blessed and so grateful to God above!
There will never be enough words to adequately express my heartfelt appreciation for what my daughter did for me this past weekend. She’s really special. I have known that for quite some time, but this … a completely selfless act, sacrificing for her mother … there are no words to tell you how that feels deep down in my soul.
If you are reading this and might have bombed this Mother’s Day on not recognizing the mother of your children or your own mother, take heart. There is always next year OR the next “special occasion.” BUT, why wait? You can create your very own special occasion … just pick a day that you’d like to do something for them out of the blue. You know what? It might mean MORE to them if you do something on a day that it isn’t “expected.” Whether you buy a gift, make one, take them out to dinner, or just sit and spent quality time with them … you will light up their entire world with your efforts.
Take time to show the people in your life that they matter.
We all feel stress. Many of us experience it on a daily basis. We know stress is bad. But do we really do anything about it or do we just live with? Jim Brickman, world renowned solo piano artist who has lived many years with a hectic stressful schedule, has compiled a wonderful collection of ideas and exercises to help everyone relieve the stress of daily life in an aptly named book: Soothe – How to Find Calm Amid Everyday Chaos.
Brickman brings together experts in various fields that share their insights into how each of us can soothe the stress in our lives. In a delightful narration, Brickman intertwines these ideas and exercises with his own personal experiences as he had worked to soothe the stress in his own life. The narrative is lively and entertaining with sections set aside throughout the book showcasing brief detailed descriptions of techniques and exercises we can use every day from his collection of experts.
As I read through the book, I could relate to so many of the things he touched upon which gave the book a more personal touch for me. I can relate to being a worrier. I can relate to getting stressed when I am late. I can relate to having my mind constantly working thinking about one thing or another; even to the point that it can affect my sleep. Some days it seems like all I am is a big ball of stress. Most of which I cause all by myself.
To accompany his book, Soothe – How to Find Calm Amid Everyday Chaos, Brickman has released a companion CD, Soothe – Music to quiet your mind & soothe your world, of beautiful stress relieving songs that incorporate the classic Brickman style arranged with peaceful sounds of nature. I have found the CD so captivating with the relaxing moods that emanate from each song that I have begun to use it during my daily meditation as well as playing it at my desk at work.
I highly recommend this book and CD for those of you that would like to try to soothe some of the stress and anxiety in your life. Brickman brings together an excellent variety of thought and examples that are easily integrated into your own schedule. Going through the book you might feel a bit overwhelmed at all the information. Don’t be. Start out slow and pick what you think will be easy for you to work into your day. You don’t have to do everything suggested in the book to see results.
Several of the techniques Brickman mentions in Soothe I have known about for some time. A couple of them I have already included in my daily schedule. Over the next several days, I would like to expand a bit on those things he writes about in Soothe – How to Find Calm Amid Everyday Chaos and give you some of my own experiences with trying to live a less stressful and more enjoyable life.
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Today is the National Day of Prayer. I come to you not with some big, long, extravagant post but a short and simple request.
Would you please join me around the nation today to pray?
The world we are living in is so completely troubled, and we need God more than ever! Sadly, He is being taken out of a lot of things in life when we need Him the most.
Will you please join me in prayer?
Matthew 18:19-20 19″Again I say to you, that if two of you agree on earth about anything that they may ask,
it shall be done for them by My Father who is in heaven.
20″For where two or three have gathered together in My name,
I am there in their midst.”
He’s in our mists! He hears every prayer. Whether you speak it out loud from your lips or whether you silently speak it from your heart to His, HE HEARS US ALL.
Pray for the nation. Pray for the leaders. Pray for those who will decide the future of our country.
Pray for your neighbors, coworkers, family, and friends.
Pray over your health and that of your family.
Pray about anything and everything that is on your heart.
Pray as hard as you can.
Even pray for your enemies, as hard as that might be. That one is still very important. Pray for those who curse you.
I came to know the singer Plumb a few short years ago. This particular song would play on the radio, and I was immediately entranced in the lyrics. There was talk of baby blue eyes and curly cues that, of course, made me think of my darling daughter who was only three years old at the time.
This song came at the right time, too, and was used as a tribute to my oldest daughter’s friend, Sydney, who was fighting a rare form of cancer in 6th grade. I’ll never forget my daughter being new to this school and rightly self conscious as she entered the classroom to take her seat amongst the new faces that would be her classmates that school year. No one spoke to my darling daughter as she made her way to a nearby seat.
Finally this blonde haired, blue eyed girl spoke up, “Hi, I’m Sydney. Would you like to sit with me?”
Oh thank God for Sydney!
My daughter did take her seat beside her new friend not knowing at that point in time that later in the school year my daughter would feel such a burning in her heart to help her newly diagnosed friend. We contacted our pastor and began working on fundraisers for Sydney, with Plumbs’ song on the video as beautiful pictures of a healthier Sydney were displayed on the overhead screen for the entire church congregation to see.
Yes, this is how I first came to know of Plumb. The perfectly written song that made me think of my youngest daughter with the eyes and the hair, while also thinking of my desire to protect my daughters from the raging storms in life. The very same song Sydney’s mother chose as a tribute to her daughter. So touching, so moving as the words of Safe In My Arms played as picture after picture was displayed of Sydney through the years.
Now Plumb, also known as Tiffany Arbuckle Lee, has returned with another powerful and moving album entitled Exhale.
I was taken with this album right away as I placed it into my computer to listen at work on Monday morning. Glancing down, I noticed the message on the front cover and knew before hearing a single word that she sang that this album would touch hearts and bring you to your knees before the throne of God.
We do not exist for us but to share the grace and love given to us ALL. We breathe it in, it changes us and then we breathe it out, we share it. I have now breathed in deeply and it has changed me completely. It has healed my heart, restored my home and made me new. Because of that grace, there is ALWAYS hope! It’s oxygen. Breathe it in … and then, EXHALE.
Do you see the potential of such a powerful impact that this one little album could have?
And then … I clicked play on my desktop, and the words flowed straight to my ears and down into my heart.
The song Exhale reassures you that no matter what you have done, everyone is welcome in His arms!
Oh friend, don’t you see the impact that this could have if more people heard those words and soaked them into their hearts and souls? What a message of hope and redemption!
Come, child … It’s not too late. It doesn’t matter what you’ve done, who you are, all that matters is that you surrender now. Confess your sins and ask for forgiveness … it is yours. The Father WILL forgive you … come just as you are and breathe in deeply … feel the sin and shame leave your body as God forgives you, washes you white as snow, and makes you new! These are my words and what it makes me think of as the words on Plumbs’ album are slowly lifting themselves through the speaker and tucking themselves into my soul. I can’t keep it to myself. I have to share it with the world … and so I sit here typing as fast as my little fingers will fly … to share the message of Hope with YOU!
There are 12 songs on this album, and they are all just as good as the first. They speak truth and life. I highly encourage you to pick up the new album, or, in lieu of a giveaway with different things you have to do to enter, just email me if you’d like a copy. I’ll select a random winner.
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Many thanks to Propeller Consulting, LLC for providing this prize for the giveaway. Choice of winners and opinions are 100% my own and NOT influenced by monetary compensation. I did receive a sample of the product in exchange for this review and post.
Only one entrant per mailing address, per giveaway. If you have won a prize from our sponsor Propeller / FlyBy Promotions in the last 30 days, you are not eligible to win. Or if you have won the same prize on another blog, you are not eligible to win it again. Winner is subject to eligibility verification.
Last week I ran across a quote that I’d like to share with you:
Thoughts affect emotions.
Emotions affect decisions.
Decisions affect your life.
Take a moment to let that sink in. In short: Thoughts, emotions, decisions, life.
Have you ever sat stewing on something that was bothering you? Deep in thought, you are physically in the same room or even vehicle with someone, yet you are a million miles away. You are so deep in thought, so into what you are ranting and raving about in your head, that you do not notice the faces that you are making that are a dead giveaway of the not-so-nice-thoughts that are swirling around in your head.
Before you know it, you are so wrapped up in your thoughts and rehashing things from when someone did you wrong in the past, how you would have reacted differently if you had more time to think before processing the bad news you received, or what you would have said if you weren’t so shocked and dumbstruck at the time. Then you get all fired up mad about the situation all over again.
Remember this! God gave you the grace to get through that moment in time.
He gave you HIS grace so you would have the shock absorber that was HIM holding you at that moment in time when you were going through this. If you keep backing up, though, you might be on your own.
I also saw a picture on Facebook of what a guardian angel might look like with someone that just continues to make bad choices. The guardian angel sits slumped over holding her head in her hands. Imagine now, if you would, that God is doing the exact same thing each and every time you back up. Oh how I wish there was one of those loud beeping things that commercial trucks have on their vehicles so that everyone knows when the vehicle is backing up so they can get out of the way. Because believe me, when you get stuck in your head and your thoughts begin to affect your emotions, people would be very appreciative if they had a warning. You know what comes next … those ill thoughts become ill feelings, and before you know it, you are acting out in a manner that, if you were thinking rationally and not reacting emotionally, you wouldn’t normally do!
Yes … thoughts … emotions … decisions … life.
The decisions that you make when you are feeling emotional due to the faulty thoughts you had in your head DO affect your life. Not only that, but they affect those who share their lives with you … your children … your spouse … your parents … your brother or sister … your coworkers … your friends. See how this all comes together? It isn’t just YOU stuck in your head. The moment you act out based on your thoughts and emotions, it is a decision that you alone made and it affects your life and the lives of others around you.
Please … get out of your head. If something is bothering you, take it to the person that can do something about it. GOD! Pray about it before you speak it to another person. Take it to God FIRST. Then, if you can calmly speak to the individual that your thoughts are swirling around about, take it to that person. I must caution you not to be accusatory, though. Calmly approach the person because chances are that your mind was running away with you and half the stuff you dreamed up in your head isn’t even true in the first place. Check with the source as soon as you can proceed calmly and with tact. It will save you from having days and weeks wasted holding a grudge or a big chip on your shoulder.
Think before you act. What you do today will affect your future tomorrow!
13 I can do all things through Christ[a] who strengthens me.
There are times when we can all use that reminder. When you feel battered and bruised, tossed to and fro in the raging storms of life, doesn’t this provide great comfort in knowing that you can draw upon the strength of the Lord?
You don’t have to fight this battle alone. Whatever it is you’re going through, it matters. It all matters. YOU matter. And it is important to wade through each and every emotion that comes flooding in. Just don’t get stuck there. Don’t let it bog you down to where you feel like you’re in quick sand. Reach up and grab the hand of the Lord. Allow Him to fill you with all the strength that you need to get you through whatever it is you are facing.
No, God will not give us more than we can bear. There are times we may feel like it, and I’m sure there have been times you’ve said that God sure does trust me to give me all of this to handle.
Friend, all you have to do is call upon the name of the Lord. Call upon the name of Jesus, and feel your weak, frail body start to feel whole again full of strength and courage even to face what lies ahead.
Say it out loud if you have to in order to draw strength and to feel the comfort of His Great and Mighty Arms around you. Say it loud and proud, with authority and conviction, with great determination!
My strength comes from the Lord!
While it will not make the storms of life immediately grow calm, God will calm YOU, His child.
Rest in His presence and allow Him to fill your cup until it runneth over, sweet child of God!
Yes, indeed. Your strength comes from the Lord.
Allow those comforting words to embrace your entire being: body, mind, and soul. Feel the strength rushing in now as God provides all that you need.
Do not be anxious. That sounds easy enough when you’re reading it, but it is so hard to do when we’re going through difficulties in our lives. Can I get an Amen?
There once was a point in my life where I was eat up with anxiety so much that I was on anti-anxiety medicine. After my sister took her life in 2001, I fought to find my sense of normal again. I lost my sister but a huge part of who I was in the process. As I tried to recover from a completely unrecoverable act with my sister ending her life, I did not know who I was any more. She was my only sibling, and I lost the ability to identify with any one about our childhood. Not only that, but in our adult lives, I lost my very best friend; my sister. We were always together, and there I was thrown into a pit of nothingness, it seemed, when she was gone. We always knew that we could count on each other, and then one day, she was taken from me. I felt completely like a fish out of water without my sister. She was my big sissy, and if we were not on the phone talking, we were together cutting up and acting silly. Our lunches were together during the work week, and we were together on weekends as well. That all changed on that hot July day in 2001, though. And my world would never be the same again.
Anxiety filled my body. Ordinary things that wouldn’t have bothered me before started grating on my nerves. I wanted to isolate myself for fear that people were whispering about my family and what happened with my sister. Others would just out right ask you about that tragic day wanting every little detail. Please … if you find yourself curious, be gentle with the person. If you just can’t help yourself and have to ask, be gentle. This is a very difficult situation to talk about any way, but it makes it especially traumatic every time the person is asked to re-live that horrible day.
Add in the fact that I had issues with my ex husband and his new wife, oh yes, the anxiety was mounting.
Things in my marriage weren’t right, yet I couldn’t quite put my finger on it. Yes, the trauma took affect in every aspect of my life, but that wasn’t what caused the issues in my marriage. Much later I would learn of my husband’s pornography addiction that he kept hidden for years. Yet, knowing things weren’t right added to my anxiety.
Then the office I worked in – full of women – seemed to turn more toxic than usual. Maybe it was because I was able to escape their harsh criticism and tactics as they focused on other victims, but when they eventually got around to me, they were unmerciful in their attempts to bring me down. The harsh reality is that very few care what you’ve been through. These “ladies” knew of my sister’s suicide, and it was almost as if they used it to push me closer and closer to the edge. Maybe they were hoping I’d do it, too. But, I did not. Instead, I turned it around when it felt as if they were egging me on and pushing me further into that pit as they attempted to ostracized me. I enjoyed not being part of “their” group. There were days I came into the office and went straight to my office not to come out until lunch time to leave, then returning where I’d practically lock myself in my office and not stick my head out again until quitting time. My office was my place of refuge. I did not need nor want to associate with them. They snubbed me, talked about me, and treated me poorly anyway. I was better off staying to myself doing my work. What could they possibly have to say about me if my work was done, and I was producing a high volume of quality work? Even still, they picked me apart and used every opportunity to barge into my office to ridicule me. Finally, I decided that if I could not accept the situation (and who should accept this ill treatment from adult “mean girls” in the work place?!) nor change the situation (I did eventually speak up to the executive director who did absolutely nothing because his family was friends with my boss and her family), it was time for me to leave. At that point, I knew for my sanity and for my health, I had to bid them all farewell … and you know what? Almost immediately I could feel the anxiety leave my body!
It has now been 13 years since my sister’s suicide. Thankfully the problems with my ex husband and his new wife died down for a few years, too! Praises to God, as it has been almost three years since I left that toxic work environment. And one that I will forever be grateful for, God has helped us in my current marriage as it has been one year since my husband sought help for his pornography addiction. We are closer than we have ever been, and I continue to see the change in my husband on a daily basis. How refreshing to feel loved, treasured, and cherished now! Oh thank you, God! And you know what else? It has been years … YEARS … since I have been off of that anxiety medicine. Praises to God above!!! The anxiety medicine is no longer needed. God calms His child.
Today, I am HAPPY! Yes, I can honestly say that today I am the happiest I have been in a very long time. I thank GOD for removing all of the anxiety in my life. He raised His hand in the mist of the storms in my life and calmed the raging seas that threatened to consume me. While I did have to eventually leave the job that I once loved, God gave me the wisdom to see that it was best. I trusted Him and took that leap of faith … and I am ever so grateful today that I did! He has provided for and met my every need, and I am eternally grateful.
The bible tells us:
Philippians 4:6-7 (NIV)
6 Do not be anxious about anything,
but in every situation, by prayer and petition,
with thanksgiving, present your requests to God.
7 And the peace of God,
which transcends all understanding,
will guard your hearts and your minds in Christ Jesus.
I’m here today to tell you that this is so true. If I had referred to God’s word more during my times of trouble and had been obedient to what this verse says to do … think of how sooner peace would have filled my soul. I thank God for the peace that is mine through Him today!
You can have that peace, too. Do not be anxious, friend. Instead, turn it all over to Jesus.
Growing up in the church, I always enjoyed the music before the pastor presented his message. Whether it was from the church choir presenting a piece that they rehearsed for several weeks before perfecting it to present to the church or a special singer ushering us into the presence of God through song, it has been something that I have looked forward to each time I have come into the house of the Lord. There is just something about raising your voice in song that invites the Holy Spirit into our mist.
Recently, I had the opportunity to review the CD entitled Let It Be Jesus by Christy Nockels. From the moment it first began playing, it had my full attention. Not only does Christy have a powerful voice, but the music invites you to tap your toes along with it or put your hands together to clap. Better yet, as you move from the first song into the next and right on down the album, you find yourself lifting your hands in praise of our Heavenly Father. He is worthy to be praised, and there is something so freeing about lifting up your arms, raising them high to the Heavens to praise His Holy Name!
Oh Father, you are so good to us.
The powerful words rang from my speakers not only to my ears but straight to my heart. How beautiful this CD really and truly is.
I sat in the living room just soaking in all of the words – marveling in His Holy Presence.
Friends, if you’re going through a trial right now and feel battered by the storms all around you, put on some praise and worship music and allow yourself to just praise Him. Yes, it is a sacrificial praise when you are so troubled and yet you lift up your voice in song to Him … sing along with Christy … or any praise and worship song … and feel your spirits being lifted. Feel the stress and anxiety leaving your body as God renews you and strengthens you. Yes, praise Him, even in the mist of the storms. That is when we need to praise Him the most. The bible tell us to praise Him in ALL things … that means the good, the bad, and the ugly. Is it easy to do when you’re going through something horrible? No … but if you will just surrender and allow God to fill you, oh what a difference it will make. I promise that if you just stop what you’re doing, stop focusing and worrying over things that are beyond your control and just surrender to God at that moment and offer your praises to Him, you will receive a touch from Heaven, from Our Father.
Christy did an excellent job in reaching us and revealing God to us through the words in her songs. You see, Christy was a worship leader for many years, so encouraging you to worship is not new to her. She truly knows how to usher you into God’s presence through her songs.
I loved getting to know more about Christy and learning that she was a pastor’s child, and she grew up singing in church. She definitely has a passion for music that comes through in her songs.
I have a great appreciation for music. It was one of my favorite things about church growing up and in my adult life. I joined a choir where I would sing my heart out every opportunity I got and boy, did it ever bless my soul. After singing with the worship choir, I branched out and fought the case of the nerves as I began singing solo at church. These are, indeed, the type of songs that I would go in search of to present to the church on Sunday mornings. How truly beautiful are the words, and I am so thankful that I had the opportunity to review this CD.
Whether you have heard of Christy Nockels before or if this is your very first time hearing of her, we’d like to send you a CD, courtesy of Propeller Consulting, LLC. Please enter our giveaway below!
Many thanks to Propeller Consulting, LLC for providing this prize for the giveaway. Choice of winners and opinions are 100% my own and NOT influenced by monetary compensation. I did receive a sample of the product in exchange for this review and post.
Only one entrant per mailing address, per giveaway. If you have won a prize from our sponsor Propeller / FlyBy Promotions in the last 30 days, you are not eligible to win. Or if you have won the same prize on another blog, you are not eligible to win it again. Winner is subject to eligibility verification.
Those three words – Live Laugh Love – have so much meaning behind them.
Live – each day to the fullest. Be present with those that you love. Savor every precious moment you get to have with them. Every breath they take is a gift. Every breath YOU take is a gift as well. Thank God for life and for the life that you’re living! Thank Him for your loved ones that surround you!
Laugh – at yourself, at silly jokes, at complete foolishness … just because it’s so much fun. Enjoy the life you’ve been given. Take every opportunity possible to laugh because life is just too serious at times. There are troubles and heartaches all around at times, it seems. So laugh. Until your stomach hurts. Laugh until you lose your breath. Laughter is truly good for your soul.
Love – God, who gave you life. Love your spouse who you get to share this wonderful life with walking hand in hand and heart to heart. Love your children that God has richly blessed you with. These little walking, talking angels are truly God’s gift to you. He sent His darling angels and has allowed you to love and care for them as you raise them into the beautiful little men and women that He would have them to be. Love thy neighbor – even those that curse you. Is it always easy? No way, but it is commanded from God above. So try … a little harder each and every day if you must, but pray for those that may come up against you. Show love. It is always possible.
Yes, I still have this hand towel hanging up in my kitchen. It has the little designs on them as if to say I haven’t yet put away all of the Christmas decor, but since I love what it says so much … they remain. It’s not that I’m lazy and just didn’t put them away. It is that I love the great reminder. The daily reminders. The every moment I’m in my kitchen reminders.
