… my tongue is the pen of a skillful writer.

Psalm 45:1

We all have bad days.  Things seem to come at us from every angle at times.  Maybe you’ve had a rough day due to coworkers at the office, or perhaps it was the exchange of heated words with your spouse the night before that is still troubling you.  There’s also the feelings that we have when our children are disrespectful or disobey us at times, not to mention harsh words from a friend.  All of this can leave you feeling beat up, unappreciated, unloved, and of little worth and value at the end of the day.  You’ve reached the point to where you’ve just had enough and are about to blow your top!  Maybe women are more prone to this, as Cindi and Hugh point out in their book, due to stifling their anger while they hang on to insults as they feel tension and pressures rising all while dealing with wonderful hormones!  Some times we just lose it and end up spewing venom … but often times it is on the ones we love the most.

What if, in the mist of all of this, you discovered a love note from your spouse?  Would that help you in that critical moment?  I think it would!  Cindi speaks of how she had a really bad day and was losing it fast when she found a rose with a simple note attached that said, “Love you, Wife.”  She really did lose it then, but in a good way.  Tears welled up in her eyes as she felt loved at that very moment.  At a critical point, she was reminded of her worth and value when she needed it the most.

Just think of how your words have power!  Use them to build your loved ones up and remind them often of how much they mean to you.  Use the power of a note to touch their hearts and lives.  It only takes a minute to write sweet and loving words on an index card or a sticky note.  Take the time!  Place the note where they will be sure to find them.  If they are traveling, stick these sweet notes in their luggage so they will find them as they are unpacking.  Or, something that I especially love to do for my daughters, slip a note that says “I love you” in their lunch box.  I have done this on occasion as well when fixing my husband’s lunch for the next day.  It’s a simple thing that can mean so very much to them.  It is worth the extra effort!  I have even slipped little notes inside of his wallet so when he flips it open, there it will be.  I’ve left love notes on the dash of his truck so he’ll find them when he gets ready to go to work, and he has left me sweet little notes as well.  I have found sticky notes on the bathroom mirror reminding me that I’m beautiful.  He has placed notes on my pillow so when I turn the covers back to slip into bed I will find it.  I have also found little notes on the seat of my car as well.  All of these notes are appreciated and mean so much.  He didn’t have to do these things for me, yet he took time out of his day to write these little reminders to me.

Oh the power of a note!

If you’re not sure of what to say, just a simple “I love you” will work!  It ALWAYS works, especially if the person feels your love by your actions and not just lip service!  Or like Shania Twain’s song, “You’re Still The One” … imagine the impact that would have!  After all of these years, you’re still the one I love!

It doesn’t have to be a long, drawn out note where you pour out the content of your heart (although that is always appreciated, too), you can just keep it simple to remind them of your love for them.  It will put a smile on their face and warm their heart!

Join us tomorrow for … Giving Each Other Space. 

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Previously in this series:

Introduction:  A New Journey

Day One:  Enjoying The Journey

Day Two:  Leaving Self On The Shelf

Day Three:  From Tense To Tender

Day Four:  Praising The Positive